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Constantly Invited, Jerika Perthuis


We are constantly invited to be Who We Are. Henry David Thoreau, years ago, would of never guessed how many times I would be able to side step this invitation. Only now, as every pretense or self-made assumption about my innateness, has evaporated out of my body, do I remain now, as I have always been. 

Lost.  

Pushing against this current, the constant overflow of chaos, dysfunction, and loss has defined my past. Working against the drip of this said current no longer wraps around my vision for myself, seeping into themes of unwanted definitions. Who I Am is not out of the ordinary, my brokenness continues to be my greatest asset. This brokenness only correlates to my greatest power, Who Christ Is. My choice, even my greatest responsibility, is to choose Him, humbly. Outside of this, there is little to discern. 

Or control. 

Even so, I am constantly invited to be as I have been called, constantly given a choice to extend grace, to forgive, to love with the greatest abundance. My constant invitation reads painfully clear; I am not defined by myself or by others, by my achievements or contributions, my missteps or an incredible ability to be tough. I am innately defined by His actions through me, my loss of control, and a conscious effort to put others before myself. Let this be a call to all of us, in our own individual wilderness, to let go of what we have never really had a handle over, knowing on the other end of lost, is hope.


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